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Sunday, November 19, 2017

Why Positive Thinking Is Not The Answer

There is a huge misconception about positive thinking - it's been sold almost as this idea that if all you do is think positive then life will work out perfectly.

If you think thinking positive is going to solve all your problems, then you got a problem.

Positive thinking is important and boy does it sure help brighten up a cloudy day, but relying solely on it to change what needs to be changed ain't gonna cut it.

If you were in the middle of winter, freezing cold temperatures, whiteout conditions, you wouldn't go outside in your swimsuit and chant for 60 minutes, with a smile on your face, "there's no snow, there's no snow!"

Assuming you survive the 60 minutes of Positive Thinking vs Mother Nature you may quickly realize that the only way to change your current circumstances is if you take actions to change them.

Listen. You got one shot at right now. If positively wishing things away hasn't worked yet, it's time for you to step up to the plate and start swinging for the fences.

A few ways you can do that:

#1 Ask yourself, "When you have been able to achieve success in the past, what exactly did you do?"

#2 Start working with a mentor/coach. Utilizing the guidance and expertise of someone who has been there, done that, and helped 100's of other people do the same is the sure way to solve your problem. You and I can chat about that in more detail by clicking this link.

#3 Focus on the future vs the right now. Often we get so caught up/obsessed, with our problems, that we completely miss the potential that is existing just beyond the horizon.

#4 Journal it out. Write about what is going on, but write as if you were an observer and you are the person you are observing. What is going on from this perspective? What advice would you give to yourself as an observer?

There's a home run hitter inside of you.

Today is your day - it is time to step up to the plate.

Sunday, October 29, 2017

Three Ways to Instantly Become More Passionate About Life

Passion...

A word that when you hear it you want what is the source of it.

We see people throughout life who have "it." The "it" they have is passion.

Whether it is in their relationship, their career, their family, or just how they interact with life; there is no mistaking a passionate person.

The big myth about passion is that it is reserved only for those who were born with it; meaning you either won the genetic lottery and have it, or you don't.

Nothing could be further from the truth for passion is not something you are born with, it is something you create. And who doesn't want to create more passion in their life?

As fate would have it, you are a born creator - born to create an emotional experience that brings you joy and fulfillment every day of your life.

Unfortunately most of us are not taught these tools in school - after all we have other, more important things to focus on like The symbolism of the green light at the end of the pier in "The Great Gatsby," (Why can't the light just be green?).

Recently I hosted a training where I shared three ways you can instantly become more passionate about life.  You can watch that training below.  These ways are simple strategies that anyone can do, but to do them will require you to step up to the plate of life and command more from yourself than you have before.



I hope the training was of value to you.

Let me know in the comments below.

As always if I can be of any help on your journey, you can let me know by contacting me here.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com

http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

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Sunday, October 15, 2017

The Importance and Power of Practicing Gratitude

One of my goals for 2017 has been to do an ongoing daily gratitude "challenge."

I say "challenge," because the challenge is to make a daily post (on Instagram which you can follow me on by clicking here.) about something I am grateful for, but really it has been such a gift - a gift to take time every day to be consciously aware and express gratitude for the gifts that life gives.

It can also be "challenging" to focus on gratitude when "life" happens.

Our default tendency seems to be to focus on the few things that go wrong (small or big) vs all the things that are going right. The "bad stuff," of life often happens over a series of moments. Much in the same that the "good stuff," is occurring from moment to moment too.

Where we miss out in life is when we define an entire day by what happens in a series of moments.

Perhaps this is just me being naive, but I have yet to meet a human being who has experienced 24 hours (1,440 moments) and within that time there was not one moment that could be classified as "good," or one thing that could not be found to be grateful for.

Gratitude is always there, sometimes you have to look a hell of a lot harder to see it, but it will be there.

Today I am sharing my most recent gratitude post with you. The reason being because it illustrates, in my opinion, about the power of gratitude and our ability to find and focus on it in the midst of challenging times. I'll let you read on...

365 Days Of Gratitude Day 286

Today I am grateful for choice (there's a message in this one I hope you'll take to heart❤️).    
I had an absolutely amazing first part of the day and a not so good last couple hours of the day, let me explain...

You've likely heard me say before that each and every day we have a choice in how we experience life. That ability to choose also empowers us to find and focus on things to be grateful for no matter what life may through at us. 

Today is a perfect example: the majority of my day was amazing... it started early (about 3:45am) with some work, then I competed in the 3rd round of a public speaking competition which I won 1st place in! I'm excited and now I get the opportunity to go onto the finals and compete against some extremely talented professional speakers! (Yes in the speaking world we use terms like "compete" "tough" and "competition" lol).

Next I got to spend a couple hours wine tasting  and enjoying lunch with a few special people. 

At the end of the day I received word of a family emergency. The outcome does not look good. Lots of emotions came up. 

How the day ended was shitty and sad, but how the day was lived and experienced before then was amazing. 

If the focus is only on the shitty/sad part then I rob myself of the joy, the love, the sense of accomplishment etc... I experienced earlier in the day. I feel sadness in this moment, but I did not feel sadness for most of this day. In fact I felt the exact opposite of sadness. Enter in choice: define the day by my sadness? Or acknowledge the sadness, but also acknowledge there were a lot of great things about today. 

Life will be hard, sometimes. Bad things will happen to good people, sometimes. Tragedies will occur, sometimes. Loved ones will leave us, sometimes. Life will seem unfair, sometimes. 

Sometimes. Not ALL the time. 

No matter what life gives you, you, and I, have a choice. 

That's me for today. Now it is your turn. What are you grateful for?

Carpe Diem,







Sunday, October 8, 2017

Five Ways to Fight Feelings of Failure

Feelings of Failure Will Fuck You Up!

Now that we got that out of the way lets dive in.

I opened with a strong statement because this is not something to pussy foot around on. Failure, specifically our perception of it and the inevitable feelings that come with "THAT" perception, can really "F" things up if something is not done about it.

Failure is one of the greatest universal fears.

Whether it is failure in a relationship, failure at work, failure at money, failure with health, failure at winning the game, or/and failure in life... perhaps more than anything else, the fear of failure keeps people frozen and prevents the transformation of ordinary to extraordinary.

Speaking from personal experience, the fear of failure has been the source of more sleepless nights, more waking up with my heart racing, more self deprecating feelings, and more cold sweats than just about anything else.

If you have spent anytime wading in the failure pool you know that it is not a place you want to spend anymore time in (been there, done that, don't need the postcard). To help you out, here are five ways to fight feelings of failure.

#1 Exercise

What positive benefit about exercise have you not heard yet? It's good for virtually everything and fighting off feelings of failure is at the top of this list. Not only does it produce good feeling chemicals like endorphin's, engaging in it helps clear your mind, distracting you from the thoughts that feed feelings of failure, and at the end of it all you get a sense of accomplishment.

#2 Shift Perspective

We feed feelings of failure by focusing on a couple key things that we use as fuel for our feelings. Shift your perspective away from this to something you have done well.  Or, even better, shift your perspective outside of yourself to someone or something else.  This might be the perfect time to reflect on the one time you helped that friend who later came back and said that your kindness changed her life.

#3 Focus on Gratitude

You, I, and everyone else have so much to be grateful for. Everyday there are 1000's of things that have to go right just for us to stay alive.  Often when we are self consuming with feeling of failure we miss all that is going right all the time around us.  The roof over you head, the air in your lungs, your eyes and being able to read this (if any of those were gone, you may be willing to trade in some feelings of failure to have them back).

#4 Talk it out

If we do not express what is on our mind and heart then we will depress it.  The trash can can only hold so much before it starts to overflow.  Which is exactly why making it a regular habit of emptying out what's inside (the thoughts you are thinking and the feelings you are feeling) is imperative.  Often just having an ear to listen or some advice from a friend, a family member, or guidance from someone like a life coach, can be just what you need to get back on track.

#5 Analyze your Successes

It has been said that success leaves clues and if you are willing to go back and examine your successes you may very well find those bread crumbs of clues that map out exactly what you need to do to replicate the success. Everyone has done something that they can call a success. What separates those who can replicate it is they become students of their success and find those key actions they took to do it again.

I encourage you to really dig in and play around with these five ways to fight feelings of failure.  Doing so can radically transform your life.

Any questions, please leave them in the comments below.

If you want to dive deeper into this and trade in your feelings of failure for the success you desire, click this link to set up a strategy session with me.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com

http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

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Sunday, October 1, 2017

Three Ways to Get Unstuck from a Mindset that Holds You Hostage

Hi,

Our mindset is so crucial to our quality of life. Without mastering our mindset we will forever be slaves to where the emotional wind decides to blows us on any given day.

I can remember vividly what my life was like when my mindset was holding me hostage - I would wake up every day hating myself, spending time in front of the mirror telling myself lots of awful things about myself like: "What a horrible person I am."

I walked with my head hanging low, ashamed of who I was, and my little bit of relief would sometimes be the satisfaction that I had made it through the day.

Life does not have to be that way.

If you find yourself imprisoned by your mindset this short training may be just the thing you need to fast track to mental freedom.



Any questions at all, please leave them in the comments below.

If you would like my help in moving forward visit my website and send me an email.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com

http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

Sunday, September 17, 2017

Getting Unstuck from Relationship Purgatory

I've been meeting with a lot of client lately who find themselves stuck in what I like to call "Relationship Purgatory.'

It's that place where things are not good, the relationship is unfulfilling, and both people have settled in things not getting better. In this place the relationship slowly dies as it gradually sucks the life out of the two people in the relationship.

If you find yourself in this space, then this recent "Weekly Wisdom" training I hosted is for you.

In it we dive deep into how people get stuck in relationship purgatory and two of the must do's to get out of it (note: you can fast forward through the first four minutes to get to the start of the training).




I always love responding to your questions and reading your comments, please leave them below.

If you would like to take advantage of the opportunity I mentioned in the training, you can do so by clicking here.

Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com

http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

Sunday, September 3, 2017

Getting Unstuck from a Self Defeating Mindset

Hi,

Our mindset is crucial to our quality of life. If we do not master our mindset, then we can never achieve full mastery of our lives.

Mastery is hard.

We have those pesky "inner voices," that critique and curse us relentlessly.

We have those unsolicited opinions from others whose words can cur more deeply than the sharpest knife.

We have the mass media that does their best to convince us that the world and humanity is a mess.

Here's the thing...

When you master your mindset the ability of the above to affect you is significantly lessened.

Perhaps even more importantly - if it does affect you, the charge it holds on you is dramatically reduced.

To advance on your path of mastery I put together this training for you.

In this training I talk about getting unstuck from a Self Defeating Mindset. (Note: you can fast forward to the 6:30 mark where the training begins).

Any questions you have about it leave them in the comments below.



Carpe Diem,

Jesse

http://www.jessebrisendine.com

http://www.facebook.com/1year1000challenge

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